Challenge 2: 30 Days of Taming the Tongue Challenge

taming the tongue

My most crucial challenge yet!  It is not easy to tame your tongue or push yourself to say things needed to fix your problems.  I used the book 30 days to Taming Your tongue by Deborah Smith Pegues to help me with this challenge.  It is a daily devotional book to be read one per day for 30 days.  Every day was filled with challenges to not only question what you say, but why you say it!

Some of the daily lessons included examining: A lying tongue, a flattering tongue, a hasty tongue, a gossiping tongue, a betraying tongue, a meddling tongue, a harsh tongue, a boasting tongue, and a self deprecating tongue and many more.  This made me bust my issues and deep down hurt wide open. I had been on both sides of the pendulum.  I had been the one using my tongue to hurt others as well as been hurt by a bitter, evil tongue.  Who was to blame? What was to blame? I had to realize that everyone plays a part in conflict and using the tongue in a more productive manner was necessary.

It says in Proverb 15:1, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Also, in Proverbs 18:21, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Furthermore, what I have learned is that sometimes taming the tongue was necessary to qualm problems, other times speaking up was a necessary step needed to solve problems.  It helped me to learn that my excessive need to talk was not all bad.   Just learn to scale back and do some intentional listening. As a result, I now am able to approach confrontations with a more level head because I watch my words along the way.  In addition, I listen more intently so that I can try to understand the message someone is trying to get across to me and try not to be offended or just defend my position.

One of the most important things I learned during this time is you can’t fight crazy! Crazy is as crazy does, a play off of Forest Gump’s “Stupid is as stupid does.”  What truly could be the purpose of arguing out points with someone who is acting crazy. They look crazy, talk crazy, and even hear crazy! (I have definitely been there before acting crazy, too!!) So why waste your breath or energy trying to get some who is in a crazy mood to sit and listen and be reasonable? Yeah right!  So guard your words closely to your heart and your mind.  God has your back and will send the Holy Spirit to guide your mind and your tongue if you let him.  Think about if what you said could be said back to you later. Think about if what you said could make the difference in easing conflict. And most importantly WWJD, what would Jesus DO!

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